N – March's Calendar Girl

I was asked to write a bit about my sexual freedom for the 2010 NYC Sex Bloggers Calendar by the lovely Tess and Diva..two ladies that I have been fortunate enough to call as my good friends over the past year.

The first time I heard about the calendar….I wanted IN! I wanted a taste of what it would be like but I also discovered that I wasn’t the only one doing a sex blog. For close to a year, i was writing on my experiences on dating and also about dating some horrendous individuals! When I heard about the launch party, and that a few of my friends were involved..I HAD to go!

Going to that party meant going on my third date with C. We had a lovely dinner and sex dessert on our first date and went to Badass’s Halloween burlesque bash on Halloween for our 2nd. We had decided that we were going to take things slow and not jump into bed with one another. This plan really didn’t last long but we were determined to make it work! C and I ended up for the most part at the party making out in the back close to the sound booth. This is why alot of people at the party including Diva never met me. I was fortunate to have met Tess outside while i was having a smoke break and we hit it off…we also became twitter friends! LOL

The whole experience opened by eyes to a whole commUNITY that I had never known. I wanted to become part of this wonderful group of intelligent and sexually diverse group of women because it had been something that I had been searching for that was lacking in my life.

Throughout the year, I have been for the most part due to my crazy work schedule, part of the parties, the outings and the lovely drinks and cupcakes! I went to the bloggers events, and the bloggers came to my burlesque show. It was a meeting of the minds and I fit in perfectly. Plus I got to make out with a few of them too so I wasn’t complaining. Giggles

Then as the old saying goes “Be careful what you wish for”. I was asked by Tess and Diva to be a part of the 2010 edition! I was so enthralled by the prospect of fulfilling my wish to one day become a calendar girl! The theme was Sexual Freedom and I knew exactly what it was that I was going for!

My own person theme was Narcissism. No really…I’m not joking! My character or more importantly “Alter-Ego” is a very narcissitic diva who loves to look at herself as well as love herself several times a day. For me, narcissism wasn’t looked upon as a negative thing. It was about loving yourself and reveling in all the goodness that is you. It was about being your own damn sexy goddess!

My image was an homage to the greek god Narcissus, known for falling in love with himself as he is enchanted by his reflection in a pool. In a way, he was totally queer! Although there were some negative aspects about his character, I felt most connected to the concept of the piece. The quality of self-love and self-preservation. Yes some may argue about the story and yes I totally know the story in it’s entirety. It is also a myth and with myths we take what we will from them. It was also about being connected with the gods as I am a practicing Pagan in the NYC area. It was spiritual as much as it was sexual.

I had the dubious honor of working with the amazing photographer Melvin Moten Jr. who until then had never worked with. We had wanted to work with each other several times throughout several years but never had the time or opportunity. Here he would photograph me at the famed Chelsea Hotel, and the final shot was of me “in the closet”. How appropo.

We had an amazing shoot together and the final pic was off and sent to the presses! After waiting what felt like years although was just a few short months, the moment arrived at the launch party at Fontana’s when I finally opened up the calendar and saw my pic! I was so proud of myself and proud of the long journey that came full circle on that warm November night. There were not any words to express how I felt after viewing the printed piece.

So I would like to extend many thanks to Tess and Diva and all those who came out and supported and represented at the party!!! Performing my signature burlesque routine in front of all of you despite Con Ed’s disapproval was amazing and I would do it again in a heartbeat! Til then, crossing my fingers for a taste at 2011’s edition!

xoxo

N

Check out N’s awesome blog, where she talks about her vagina, as indicated in the title, an awful lot, at The Vagina Adventures. And if you’re lucky enough to be in New York City, be sure to check out the burlesque show she produces with JZ Bich, Hypergender Burlesque, it’s like nothing you’ve seen before in a very, very good way. At $10 a head, it’s a sexy, smart and sometimes snarky, NYC bargain.

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