For some guys, finding a girlfriend might seem like an impossible task. Despite their best efforts, girls seem to simply be attracted to other guys. Here are a few tips that can help you become the kind of guy that women see as boyfriend material instead of just friends. Some of these things can’t change over night, but by working on these aspects of your personality and life, you can improve your chances of meeting the right woman.
Improve Your Own Life
Ask yourself, “Is my life interesting enough that a woman would like to be part of it?” Does your life consist of more than your job and taking care of day-to-day responsibilities? If not, you probably aren’t truly happy and you won’t have much to say to or share with a girlfriend.
This doesn’t mean you need to be a party animal, but you should have something in your life that you’re passionate about and that you feel good about. If you don’t have these things, you might develop the idea that a girlfriend is going to make your life interesting. This puts a lot of expectation on the girl and this will show when you try to approach one.
Additionally, if you learn to be happy with your single life, it takes the pressure off trying to find a girlfriend right away. You’ll approach women with the idea that it could be something great, but if it’s not, you still have an enjoyable single life waiting for you.
If you just aren’t sure what you can be passionate about, dedicate some time to trying a variety of activities. It could be anything from fitness to music or hobbies. When you’re happy with yourself and feel good about your life it shows. You might even meet someone while trying new things and discovering your passions.
The Way You Think
What’s going on in your mind is not always as private as you might think. Some men have wrong ideas about how a relationship develops. They have unrealistic expectations inspired by movies or shows of how a woman should treat them or how attractive they are. This can lead to a lot of frustration.
It is also important to note that women can sense what you’re thinking. I personally knew someone who obviously was always thinking about sex. It didn’t matter what he said to a girl. His body language said it all and women couldn’t wait to get as far from him as possible. To make matters worse, he seemed to think this was unfair, as if he was owed at least some attention from them. This kind of attitude is dangerous and counterproductive.
We may be used to getting our way with our family or at our job. But dating is a two-way experience. You shouldn’t have the attitude that a women should want to be with you or should show you attention. Even the most charming and attractive men get rejected. Although attraction is important, you should be thinking about what you have to offer her and not the other way around.
How many hilarious sitcom situations have you see that revolve around an elaborate lie to impress a girl? How often do these lies lead to success? Being honest is the best policy in a relationship. No women likes a guy who agrees with everything she says. If you start off lying about yourself to impress a girl, she’ll find out eventually.
However, there is such thing as too much information. Don’t confuse honesty with volunteering too much personal detail early on in a relationship. You don’t need to go into your past relationships in great detail when you are talking to a girl for the first time. You don’t need to express every negative emotion or dislike that you have.
Learn to be genuine with everyone you meet. Try to have a positive outlook and be honest about as much as you can. If you treat everyone like this, it’ll be easier to talk to women openly. After all, you want to know if she likes you for you, not because of some lie that might impress her initially.
These are just some simple tips that can make you better boyfriend material. There are no cut-and-dry formulas to getting a girl’s attention. All women are different too. For this reason, it’s best to work on yourself, be honest and sincere and see how things play out.