The first date can be a potential minefield for men, especially when we’re really interested in the girl. Here are a few simple tips that can go a long way to making sure that very crucial date goes off without a hitch. Following these simple suggestions will help you make sure the first date is not the last!
Be a Gentleman
There aren’t many women out there who don’t appreciate a guy being a gentleman. Even girls who give off a tough-as-nails persona or the extreme lifestyle types will at the very least find it cute. On the other hand, to many women, it is an essential quality in a potential boyfriend.
Little things like holding the door, offering your hand when exiting a car go a long way to showing how you can be a true gentleman. Show common courtesy to others on your date as well. If the waiter makes a mistake, even a big one, be assertive but also polite. Women may read a lot into little things you do like the size of tip that you leave or if you make an immediate effort to pick up the check. The proper behavior here should be obvious: show her your generosity and don’t be a cheapskate!
Give Compliments
Giving genuine compliments is also important on a first date. You might assume your date knows she looks beautiful. Maybe she does, but she wants to hear it from you. Giving compliments will help you gauge how well things are going as well. Don’t be afraid to break the physical barrier with a slight hand touch or other gesture that doesn’t stray too far past comfortable.
Keep It Simple
First dates should not be elaborate affairs. If you’ve been pining after a girl for a long time and just got her to notice you, going all out on the first date is going to seem odd and possibly scary to her. First dates don’t even have to be a full-blown dinner. It could just be drinks or coffee or some mutually enjoyable activity.
Keep in mind that things might not go great. Do you really want to spend all night with someone who obviously has little interest in you? Are you going to spend hundreds of dollars to impress someone who may or may not want to see you again? Try to keep things in perspective and find something that’s neutral, fun and easy.
You do want to get to know the person on a first date. This means activities like movies or dancing might not be the best place. Chances are, you won’t be able to talk comfortably or at all. How much can you really learn about someone sitting next to them in a movie theater? Save these dates for later on, once the two of you are comfortable in each other’ s presence.
Follow-Up
Girls need momentum to maintain their interest in a relationship. Now, you’ve probably heard all kinds of rules about when to call and what to do. In this aspect, a careful balance must be struck. You don’t want to come off as needy or worse, like a stalker. So tons of calls and contact is out of the question. However, you don’t want to seem uninterested either.
If you really enjoyed the date, tell her honestly that you did and you’d like to see her again. If the reaction is positive, make sure she has your number and make sure you get her number. Give her a call the next day and make a plan for a few days later. Don’t wait more than a week to make plans for another date.
Every woman is different. You’ll need to gauge how much interaction you have based on what you can observe about her. After the first date, you might discover that she is a very social person. She might start talking to you on Facebook and sending you messages. As long as you are comfortable with the level of communication, you should respond in the same way.
Keep in mind, though, that sometimes less is more. Early in a relationship, you might run out of things to talk about without getting into private, intimate details. If so, you might want to keep phone calls or other communication positive but short, end them before they get stale or awkward. These tips are simple, but they can go a long way to making sure the first date leads to many more.
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